Ladies: Hotter and Better Sex After 50

Now that you’re in the fifth decade of your life, you have more time to explore your sexuality. You might have been missing out on all kinds of bedroom fun all this time! Keep reading to for some recommendations on having better sex after 50.

1. Dismiss the notion that sex is more about pleasing your partner. A lot of women believe that they can only obtain sexual pleasure by pleasing their lover. Sure, it can be very gratifying to make the one you love happy in bed, but you both need to be satisfied. Women need to explore their own desires, which is easier said than done if they’re not sure what those desires are! If a woman knows what turns her on, her partner can be part of the pleasure. Switching perspectives can result in mind-blowing sex for you both.
2. Stop putting pressure on yourself by rushing to achieve pleasure. The great thing about sex after 50 is that you’ll have plenty of time to explore your erogenous zones. If you think it “takes too long” to obtain pleasure, you need to stop being so hard on yourself. Make time to figure out what you like and don’t limit your exploration.
3. Learn about the benefits of lubricants. The reality is, after you reach 50, your body has changed. If your body doesn’t “self-lubricate” like it used to, a lubricant can be the next best thing. It can also make sex more enjoyable and less painful. There are several different types of lubricant to choose from, including coconut oil! You’ll need to explore which one you fancy the best.
4. Change your concept of what sex should entail. Realize that sex involves more than orgasm and intercourse. Several of the most intense sexual experiences don’t involve either one. Change your mindset from orgasm to kissing, touching, stroking, and miscellaneous other types of erotic play (nibbling, tickling, or blowing air). Get innovative and don’t shy away from the sensation your curiosity will induce.
5. Figure out what pushes your buttons. If you wait for someone else to turn you on, you might be waiting for a while. Understand your own body and explore the erogenous tissue in your pelvis and genitals. Just as men have erectile tissue in their penises, females have them in their pelvises. Whether you do it with your partner or by yourself, it’s worthwhile to learn about the sensual areas of your body.

Believe it or not, sex after 50 can be the best sex you’ve ever had. It can include new experiences, adventures, and the liberation of erotic autonomy.